GRaTiTuDe: “THiS Will ReaLLY Be a GooD DaY” 感恩:“今天将是一个真正的好日子”

GRaTiTuDe is being so beautifully presented by Louie Schwartzberg: Nature. Beauty. Gratitude.  Watch:

What the elderly man said in the video was so full of wisdom:

” You think this is just another day in your life – it’s not just another day. It’s the one day that is given to you today. It’s given to you. It’s a gift. It’s the only gift that you have right now, and the only appropriate response is gratefulness. If you do nothing else but to cultivate that response to the great gift that this unique day is, if you learn to respond as if it were the first day in your life, and the very last day, then you will have spent this day very well.

Begin by opening your eyes and be surprised that you have eyes you can open, that incredible array of colors that is constantly offered to us for pure enjoyment. Look at the sky. We so rarely look at the sky. We so rarely note how different it is from moment to moment with clouds coming and going. We just think of the weather, and even of the weather we don’t think of all the many nuances of weather. We just think of good weather and bad weather. This day right now has unique weather, maybe a kind that will never exactly in that form come again. The formation of clouds in the sky will never be the same that it is right now. Open your eyes. Look at that.

Look at the faces of people whom you meet. Each one has an incredible story behind their face, a story that you could never fully fathom, not only their own story, but the story of their ancestors. We all go back so far. And in this present moment on this day all the people you meet, all that life from generations and from so many places all over the world, flows together and meets you here like a life-giving water, if you only open your heart and drink.

Open your heart to the incredible gifts that civilization gives to us. You flip a switch and there is electric light. You turn a faucet and there is warm water and cold water — and drinkable water. It’s a gift that millions and millions in the world will never experience.

So these are just a few of an enormous number of gifts to which you can open your heart. And so I wish for you that you would open your heart to all these blessings and let them flow through you, that everyone whom you will meet on this day will be blessed by you; just by your eyes, by your smile, by your touch — just by your presence. Let the gratefulness overflow into blessing all around you, and then it will really be a good day.”

“感恩”被 “Louie Schwartzberg:自然。美丽。感恩。” 如斯这般美丽地呈现出来!请看:





看看你所遇到的周遭人的脸孔。每一个脸孔的背后都有一个了不起的故事,一个你也许永远无法完全捉摸的故事。那不仅仅是他们自己的故事,也包括了他们祖先的故事。而在这一天,在这当下,所有你遇到的人,都从不同年代,不同地方到此地与你相遇,就像给予生命的水汇流在一起。而你, 你只须打开你的心扉,便能畅快地痛饮。

打开你的心扉去接收文明给我们带来不可思议的礼物吧 — 你只须打开开关,就有电灯;你打开水龙头,就有温水和冷水 – 和饮用水。这些都是世界上数百万人无法拥有的经验,却是你可拥有的许许多多的礼物中的其中一小部分。

所以我极希望你能打开你的心扉去接收所有这些的祝福。用你的双眼,你的微笑,你的触摸 – 或仅仅是你的存在。让感恩满溢地的祝福着你,那么今天将是一个真正的好日子!”

A Parade of STrenGThs 性格强项游行

A parade of character strengths by people from all walks of life (please click on the links to read about their inspiring stories):


Do you have inspiring stories of people with character strengths to share?  Share them HERE!

你有关於性格强项的好故事吗? 欢迎你在这里分享!

The character strength of BRAVERY 性格优点的“勇敢”

“I left on Friday, I walked to school. Today I’m walking back home.
They can’t beat me.”

The character strength of BRAVERY is not about being fearless, it is about taking a course of action in the presence of fear and danger.  We recently wtinessed an excellent demonstration of the character strengths of “Bravery, Hope, Love and Gratitude” by a 12-year-old.


性格优点里的“勇敢”绝不是相等於“无畏”。“勇敢”是在面对於恐惧和危险时,采取行动。我们最近就亲眼见证了一个十二岁的小男孩为“ 勇气,希望,爱和感恩 ”这四个性格优点作了一个最好的示范!

Bosses Take Note! 老板们请注意!

Referred by a friend: Daniel Pink on the surprising science of motivation.

According to Daniel Pink, a career analyst, employees today are motivated less by monetary rewards than by the following three key factors:
Autonomy – the urge to direct your own life
Mastery – the desire to get better and better from something that matters
Purpose – the yearning to do what we do in the service of something that is larger than ourselves.

Looking around people we work with, especially the new Generation Y, there seems to be quite some truths in the theory.  Bosses, something to take note!

Do you agree with Daniel Pink’s views? You are most welcome to share your views in this blog.


自治 – 主导自己生活的强烈欲望
精练  – 渴望把对自己有重要性的事情做得更好
意义  – 渴望提供超越小我,有更大意义的服务。

放眼四周,特别是新一代的 ” 八十后” ,以上理论似乎有相当的道理。老板们, 请注意了!


eCoach – Try it! 电子辅导 – 不妨一试! launched its Inner Game Electronic Coach and making it available for FREE for a limited period of time.

According to the website, the Inner Game eCoach is ” … a web-based personal coaching tool that helps you define your objectives, motivations, and strategies for moving towards your desired outcomes.  The process is designed to clarify your thinking about any issue,  problem, or goal.”

I tried it myself and found it a rather effective tool to help clarify and simply my thinking about an issue to enable me to be more focussed.

You may wish to give it a try: The Inner Game eCoach.  This may be particularly helpful if:
1. your issues are not a major one (but a confused one);
2. you do not really want to go through the hassles of finding a suitable coach;
3. you cannot justify nor see the need to pay for a coach for the issue; and
4. you do not wish or are uncomfortable to share your issues with others.

The Inner Game is an approach/methodology developed by Tim Gallwey for the development of personal and professional excellence in a variety of fields. Gallwey believes that “Every game is composed of two parts, an outer game and an inner game. The former is played against opponents, and is filled with lots of contradictory advice; the latter is played not against, but within the mind of the player, and its principal obstacles are self-doubt and anxiety.”

You can read more abou the Inner Game HERE. 推出了其“内部比赛”电子辅导,并在有限期间将它免费提供给有兴趣的人参於。

根据网站的信息,“内部比赛”电子辅导是 “……一个自我辅导(self-coaching)的网络工具。它可帮助你定义你的目标,动机和策略,以向你所设的目标前进。它的设计让你能在过程中,你的思想,以澄清有关的任何问题现在,问题或目标。”

我尝试了, 觉得它是一个相当有效的自我辅导工具。它帮助我专注于我想要解决的问题,并帮助我进一步澄清问题的关键所在。

你可以一试 : “内部比赛”电子辅导。这可能是你的一个好‘帮手’, 如果 —
1. 你的问题并不太大(但却感到思绪不清);
2. 你不想去面对寻找一个合适辅导教练的麻烦;
3. 你不能为你的问题自圆其说地去支付辅导教练;
4. 你不想与他人分享你的问题。

“内部比赛”是由Tim Gallwey所研究开发为个人和专业寻求杰出表现的一个方法。Gallwey认为,“每场比赛都是由两部分组成的:外在的实质比赛以及内部的心理赛。前者着重打击对手,并充满很多矛盾的建议;后者则是参赛者自己的心理状态和想法, 主要障碍来自自我怀疑和焦虑。”


Courage, Humor, Hope, Persistence, Self-Regulation 勇气, 幽默, 乐观, 毅力,自我规范

Witness Amy Purdy’s character strenghts of Courage, Humor, Hope, Persistence, Self-Regulation.

见证艾米普尔蒂的性格优点:勇气, 幽默, 乐观, 毅力自我规范

Amy’s story and her blog 艾米普尔蒂的故事和她的部落格:

What is Your Answer? 您的答案是什么?

2 minutes of your time, without discussing with anyone, what would be your answer to the following question?  (answer will be provided soon =)



Listening to the Experts 听君一席话。

While our 7-week training with VIA Institute has ended; our learning continues, thanks to VIA’s generosity.

If you are keen to learn character strengths and its application, you really should not miss this great opportunity:  In November 2011, VIA Institute launched its VIA Pioneers Speaker Series where Dr. Ryan,  VIA Education Director, hosts “specialists and experts discussing the application of character strengths in a variety of practice domains….VIA will host a variety of tracks dealing with different areas of application, such as counseling, business and education.” They allow anyone who is interested to sign-up to watch LIVE and get the opportunity to pose questions to the experts. What’s more VIA does not charge — it is free.

I signed up for the first one by Dr Tayyab Rashid who spoke on “Character Strengths in Counselling/Psychotherapy”.  Dr Tayyab is a licensed clinical psychologist at the Health & Wellness Centre at the University of Toronto Scarborough, Canada. He is also the Lead Consultant for Applied Research for the VIA Institute and a co-developer of Positive Psychotherapy with Dr. Martin Seligman.

What strike me the most at Dr Tayyab’s talk were his view points on “Why We Should Work on Strengths“.  Here is a summary of his views:

  1. If our purpose is to see a person grows, focussing our mind and efforts solely on remediation is just not sufficient.  Strengths, according to Dr Tayyab, are much more effective generators of change– and making changes is a prerequisite to a person’s growth.
  2. Working on strengths creates a different mindset and positive emotions. Positive emotions brings about the urge to “collaborate” and opens up one’s mind to see alternatives.
  3. Working on strengths is a better coping strategy as the mental attention is on strengths. Using strengths language allows people to view challenges differently, hence cope better.
  4. They (the strengths) are already “there”, why not work on them?

You can still listen to Dr Tayyab Rashid’s talk HERE.

Useful Link: VIA Institute website


如果您对性格优点及其应用感兴趣,您可不要错过这个大好机会:VIA研究中心在2011年十一月推出先锋演讲系列。它将由莱恩博士,VIA研究中心的教育总监,主持邀请专家讨论各种对性格优点在不同领域(如咨询,商业和教育)的实践和应用。VIA研究中心允许任何有兴趣的人报名观看现场直播,并有机会向专家提出问题。而且,VIA不收分文 – 它是免费的。

我参加了第一个演讲系列:Tayyab Rashid博士主讲的“性格优点和心理辅导”。Tayyab Rashid博士是加拿大多伦多大学卫生及健康中心的临床心理学家。他也是VIA研究中心的首席顾问,以及马丁塞利格曼博士一同开发正面心理治疗的合作伙伴。


  • 如果我们的目的是帮助他人的发展和成长,仅仅集中我们的思想和功夫在整治上是不足够的。优点强项绝对是更有效地去促使一个人的改变 — 而改变正是一个人成长的前提。
  • 致力於发挥所长帮助他人建立起一个不同的的心态和正面的情绪。正面的情绪促进一个人“合作”的欲望和态度。它也帮助开扩一个人的想法,让他看到多方面的可能性。
  • 致力於发挥所长是为应对挑战更有效的策略。这是因为它将一个人的精神和注意力集中在他的优点强项上。使用优点强项的语言,让人们产生不同的观点,从而更积极地面对挑战。
  • 它们(您的优点强项)根本都已经是您的一部分了,为什么不好好地开拓应用?

您仍然可以在这里 听到Tayyab Rashid博士的演讲。


3 Questions to a Preferred Career Choice 三个关键问题决定首选职业

“What is the best career choice for me?”

In my line of work, this is perhaps THE most frequently asked question by the new graduates I worked with.  It is not surprising given they are fresh out of school.  In many cases, their graduating from a particular discipline has absolutely nothing to do with their career aspirations but what their parents have wanted them to study.

To answer the question, I like to show them the three big circles and answer their question by asking the following three questions (remember? We discussed this before.  The answers lie with them.  We are just there to ask good questions to help draw the answers out from them):-

Question (1) Passion – what do you really enjoy doing?  When you are doing a task that you are passionate about, you feel engaged and energized, you feel excited, you forget about time.  

Question (2) Strengths – what are you really good at doing?  If you are good at something, you demonstrate a rapid learning curve compared to others around you.  

Question (3) Values – what are the things that are so important to you that you will not trade them for anything?

Career choices that meet all the above, i.e. those in the intersection of the three circles, I tell them, would be your preferred career choices.  These choices match your passion with your strengths and are in congruence with your value system.  When you are doing something you are really passionate about and are good at it, naturally you would be performing outstandingly and happy.  It also brings sustainability.

“What about money?”  They would usually follow-up with this question.

“When you find a career within this intersection that sees you both happy and performing at your career, money will come.” is always my answer. 

Of course, they would eventually learn that money indeed has very little to do with career satisfaction and happiness in life.

What about your career? Is it one in the intersection of your Passion, Strengths and Values?  Are you happy with what you are doing?  Do feel free to share your views.“什么是最适合我的职业选择?”



问题(一)强烈爱好 — 你真正喜欢做什么任务?当你对某件任务有着强烈爱好时,你在从事这件任务时,会完全投入而处在激励的状态中,你会忘了时间的存在。

问题(二)优点长处 — 你的专长是什么?你最擅长的是在哪方面?这意味着和你周围的人相比,你在这方面有一个较他人快速的学习曲线。

问题(三)价值观 —什么是对你如此重要,你无论如何不会把它与任何东西作交换的?


“那钱呢?不在被考虑范围内吗?” 他们通常都会跟进这个问题。




10 Things re: Love of Learning 十大关于热爱学习

The second character strength I learned from “Character Strengths and Virtues, A Handbook and Classification” : “Love of Learning“.  It again confirms and verifies the important role played by teachers, the learning environment and the nature of tasks in cultivating one’s love towards learning a subject matter.

Definition:  This strength describes the way in which a person engages new information and skills.  People with this strength experience positive feelings when they are in the process of acquiring new information and skills, it can be just building on existing knowledge or learning something entirely new.

 My 10 Key Takeaways:

1.  The Love of Learning strength comes from intrinsic motivation i.e. learning for the sake of learning, for the enjoyment and challenge.
2.  People with love of learning must feel they are mastering a skill or filling in the gaps in their knowledge in the process of learning.
3.  The learning environment is a web of relations: the learner and the materials; the teacher to the materials; the learner to the teacher; the teacher to the learner’s academic work; the learner to peers regarding academic work and the relation among the learner, parents and teacher regarding academic work.  Each of these relations must support engagement and collaboration.
4.  Teacher plays a key role in supporting the love of learning for a certain subject by how he/she –

  • Structures the content and curriculum
  • Enables students to make meaningful and connections to the content
  • Genuinely likes the students and develops a connection to the students
  • Develops a clear plan for the class that build on what the students knows, focuses on the students as learners and conveys an expectation that they can and will learn
  • Supports students to sustain the frustration that is inherent in learning

5.  Constraints of the school setting (limited course options, grades, pedagogical practices) may limit opportunities for interest development.
6.  It is important that students/learners appreciate the structure of the classroom or task as having a mastery approach – this can be accomplished by emphasizing goals.
7.  Love of Leaning can be nurtured by tasks which are (i) complex enough to require collaboration and encourage sharing of different perspectives and (ii) authentic and meaningful.
8.  Love of Learning can be strengthened by fulfilling people’s need for belongingness, competence, positive feelings and utility.
9.  People with love of learning place greater value on the content that they are learning.
10. The Love of Learning strength has to be nurtured if it is to be sustained over time.

Related link: The importance of a good teacher: “Galileo’s Teacher”.

Is Love of Learning one of your character strengths? You can find out and get a FREE full character strength report from HERE.



1.  热爱学习来自内在的动力,也即是为了学习的乐趣和挑战而学习。
2.  热爱学习的人在学习过程中必须感受到他们在掌握着一门技能,或在填补着他们的知识差距。
3.  学习的环境是一个关系网络:学习者和教材的; 教师和教材的;教师和学习者的学术工作的; 同行的学术工作和学习者的学术工作以及彼此之间的关系,家长和教师的。每一个以上的关系人都必须支持在学习上的参与和协作。
4.  教师在支持学生对热爱学习某一主题有着关键性的作用 —

  • 结构课程的内容;
  • 让学生对课程的内容感到有意义和有联系;
  • 真正地喜欢学生及与学生产生联系;
  • 开发一个明确的,建立在学生现有知识上的教学计划。以学生是学习者为焦点,传达教师对学生有能力学习的期望;
  • 对学生在学习过程中所面对的挫折给予支持。

5.  学校设置(选修课程,等级,教学实践)的限制,往往会影响学习者发展兴趣的机会。
6.  学习者对课堂或任务的结构是否有一个掌握方法的看法是很重要的 –这可以通过强调设定目标来完成。
7.  我们可以通过以下性质的任务来加强学习者对学习的热爱:(一)任务的复杂程度必需要学习者无间的合作并分享彼此不同的观点;和(二)任务是真实和有意义的。
8.  我们也可以通过满足人们的归属感,对能力,积极的情感和实用度的需求来加强学习者对学习的热爱。
9.  热爱学习的人把学习的价值放在学习的内容上。
10.  一个人若要持续他热爱学习的性格优点,他必须对它加以培育。