A Touching Story on STReNGTHS 一篇关于强项的感人故事

This is an inspiring story I recently read in  the New Straights Times. It touches the core of what this blog has been advocating: To flourish, you must know your strengths and how to leverage on them.

I learned that it is so important for parents to have:

  • The character strengths of Love, Hope, Perseverance, Courage and Wisdom — we saw how a positive-minded mother defied all odds and the traditional school system to nurture her daughter who has learning difficulty transforming the girl who severely lacked self-esteem and confidence into someone who is confident and, more importantly, happy about who she really is.
  • Appreciation of the importance of Knowing the Strengths of their child and  allowing their child to Flourish by Nurturing the Strengths.

Click to read the full story HERE.  I hope this story not only encourages parents with learning disability kids but also inspires all parents to move in the right direction : start from knowing the STRENGHTHS of your kids!

Do you know the strengths of your kids? Have you thought of how to nurture their strengths to enable them to flourish and be happy?

Relevant links:
http://learningbeyondschooling.org/
http://www.nst.com.my/life-times/showbiz/people-dance-talks-1.103189
http://www.medicinenet.com/dyslexia/article.htm
And I really like this “Famous People with the Gift of Dyslexia” http://www.dyslexia.com/famous.htm
http://hip-hop-dance.net/

我最近读了一篇非常感人且有启发性的报道 。这个篇报道直接关联到这个博客一直倡导的核心:成功的首要,是你必须知道你的强项长处,以及如何好好地利用它们。
 
我把这篇报道翻译了,想与更多的人分享。我从这个故事里上了很好的一课:
  • 父母亲的爱,乐观,,勇气智慧是何等重要 —  一位积极开明的母亲如何排除所有困难和抵制传统的学校制度,去培育一个有学习困难的女儿,使得她从一个缺乏自尊和自信而成为一个拥有自信心和开心的女孩。更重要的是她快乐的做着自己!
  • 父母亲完全了解孩子的长处,从孩子的长处为出发点来培育他们的重要性。

我希望这个故事不但能鼓励有学习障碍孩子的家庭,也能启发所有父母从正确的方向去培养及教育孩子:从了解他们的强项长处出发!

你知道你的孩子的长处吗?你有没有想过如何培育他们的长处,使他们茁壮快乐地成长?

 
“手上拿着iPad,坐在沙发上的Samantha,看起来和其他15岁的女孩完全没有什么不同。她就像一个害羞而不善交谈的女孩。若是有人和她说话,她会以笑声和她的手指玩着她的头发来掩饰她的紧张。有时,她会斜睨着眼交谈;当你问及她简单的问题时,她会将她的手掌覆盖在她的脸上说:“我不知道”。当她对别人对她的关注感到累了时,她会走开到一个角落坐着。当她感觉好多了,她会倒回来参与谈话或只是聆听着她的母亲,慧玲,和大伙聊着关于她的事。
 
Sam,她的昵称,是一个有阅读障碍 (‘dyslexic’) 的女孩。
 
“她看这个世界的方式和平常人是不一样的。她是以图片或是画面而非文字去思考。” 慧玲说。慧玲是一个家庭主妇,你会觉得她所做的一切就只是照顾她的三个孩子。然,这位前钢琴老师绝对做的比你想象的多得太多。

我是在一个很偶然的情况下遇到她。我停下来问路,一个有趣的巧合。 “你是在找我的房子吗?”她问道。当时,她正从儿童保育中心走这在回家。她和她的丈夫,宋,在两年前开始了一个为5-17岁孩子的支援小组,这些孩子包括了那些有自闭症的和有阅读障碍的。“我觉得孩子们需要作定期的互动交流,做他们喜欢做的事。逼着去他们不喜欢的东西是没有意义的。”慧玲说。

当年,当慧玲发现了Sam的状况时,就是采取了同样的方法。慧玲注意到当同龄的其他孩子们学习阅读和写作时,Sam却没有这样的兴趣。但慧玲并没有惊慌,她还是继续每天晚上不辞其劳地念故事书给Sam听。

Sam也和其他孩子们一般被送到幼儿园上课。当时,她的父母并没有意识到她是有困难学习的。因为Sam的状况,她有着有着卑微的自尊心,她没有和任何人说话,或者与其他孩子打成一片。“在好几年后,她才告诉我,每一天幼儿园的老师让她坐在一个角落里,盯着墙壁 — 因为她和其他孩子不一样。”

这样的经验对大多数孩子来说绝对是很痛苦的。但因为Sam有着不同的思维方式,她认为老师是在和她玩游戏。然,随着时间的过去,她觉得“游戏”变得十分无聊,于是她告诉了她的妈妈,她不想上学了。妈妈同意了。当Sam八岁时,慧玲一位有阅读障碍儿子的朋友,给了Sam一个测试。这位朋友曾上了一个关于阅读障碍的课程。

Sam被发现了有轻度的阅读障碍,送去一个中心,在那里她可以得到额外的学习援助和参加特殊班。但,它却不是慧玲所预期中的。“老师对待Sam就像对待一个正常的幼儿园孩子,”她说。于是,她决定开始在家教育Sam。就在其时,慧玲方意识到,虽然她的女儿有学习障碍,她却在其他方面有卓越的表现 – 艺术方面!

Sam已经学会了拉小提琴,钢琴以及吉他。她打高尔夫球,画画和游泳。她也跳芭蕾舞,但她现在的最爱,是嘻哈舞蹈。“这是她表达自己的方法。我不介意她跳一整天,因为它使她高兴,” 慧玲补充说Sam在跳舞时是一个完全不同的人,她充满活力,充满生机和自由,不像她平时安静的自我。

Sam在两年前看了一个城市舞蹈比赛(‘Showdown’)播出时发现了嘻哈舞蹈。她说服了她母亲,让她参加一个每周一次的街头舞蹈班。现在,Sam每天都在市区舞蹈班跳舞。她最疯狂的梦想是在人群面前和在电视上跳舞。而她的朋友竟为她实现了这个梦想,邀请她参加了他们的Showdown。他们形成一个叫“Hype”的四人组,竟在一百队选队里得了排名第十二位!但,她们最终并没有进入比赛。

尽管如此,Showdown的经验对于Sam来说是一个转捩点。她变得更加有自信,在公众场合比较健谈。她会与她的朋友逛商场,看电影。她也因此获得了一点点的名气。有一天,在吉隆坡市中心,一个十几岁的女孩跑过来,给了Sam一个拥抱。这个女孩,和许许多多人一样,看到Sam在电视里跳舞,很为Sam的舞步感到惊讶。

曾几何时,Sam是那么地害怕被嘲笑。然,现在,慧玲说,她的女儿已经变成为一个快乐的人,这一切都因为她坚信给予Sam自由的选择。

在过去两周,Sam获得了奖一份学金以及参加了一个为期十天在槟城举办,来自美国舞蹈老师参加的舞蹈讲习班。“教官说,Sam已掌握了舞蹈的纯正形式,只要给予更多的实践,她将成为是最好的舞者。这真让我感到自豪。”慧玲说。她补充说,Sam希望成为一个好的舞者和编舞者。她希望有一天有自己的舞蹈工作室。

慧玲和她的丈夫在培养自己的孩子成就上,走了一段很长的路。他们十六岁的女儿,Amrita,现在正在与她的爸爸在欧洲参於及增加自己对国际音乐的经验。她立志要成为一名歌手和作曲家,就像她最喜欢的艺人,尤娜。慧玲还有一个八岁的儿子,Arian,他们怀疑他也有阅读障碍。“他是读得慢一点,但在其他的事情上,他非常的敏锐。他十分爱说话。”,慧玲对她所有的孩子采取家庭教育(‘home school’)。Arian对漫画书有兴趣,慧玲就让他追寻他自己的兴趣。毕竟,你永远不知道他长大时他会成为什么样的人。

广泛来说,阅读障碍是一种关于发展性的阅读残疾。它使大脑不能正确地认识和处理符号。它发生在一个有助于解释语言的大脑区域。但它只限于一个特定的信息处理问题,并不会干扰思考的能力或理解复杂的想法。”

相关链接:
http://learningbeyondschooling.org/
http://www.nst.com.my/life-times/showbiz/people-dance-talks-1.103189
http://www.medicinenet.com/dyslexia/article.htm
我很喜欢的一个:”拥有阅读障碍恩赐的名人” http://www.dyslexia.com/famous.htm
http://hip-hop-dance.net/

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What is Your Answer? 您的答案是什么?

2 minutes of your time, without discussing with anyone, what would be your answer to the following question?  (answer will be provided soon =)

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用两分钟的时间,在不与任何人讨论的情况下,您对以下问题的答案是什么?
(答案会将揭晓)

Listening to the Experts 听君一席话。

While our 7-week training with VIA Institute has ended; our learning continues, thanks to VIA’s generosity.

If you are keen to learn character strengths and its application, you really should not miss this great opportunity:  In November 2011, VIA Institute launched its VIA Pioneers Speaker Series where Dr. Ryan,  VIA Education Director, hosts “specialists and experts discussing the application of character strengths in a variety of practice domains….VIA will host a variety of tracks dealing with different areas of application, such as counseling, business and education.” They allow anyone who is interested to sign-up to watch LIVE and get the opportunity to pose questions to the experts. What’s more VIA does not charge — it is free.

I signed up for the first one by Dr Tayyab Rashid who spoke on “Character Strengths in Counselling/Psychotherapy”.  Dr Tayyab is a licensed clinical psychologist at the Health & Wellness Centre at the University of Toronto Scarborough, Canada. He is also the Lead Consultant for Applied Research for the VIA Institute and a co-developer of Positive Psychotherapy with Dr. Martin Seligman.

What strike me the most at Dr Tayyab’s talk were his view points on “Why We Should Work on Strengths“.  Here is a summary of his views:

  1. If our purpose is to see a person grows, focussing our mind and efforts solely on remediation is just not sufficient.  Strengths, according to Dr Tayyab, are much more effective generators of change– and making changes is a prerequisite to a person’s growth.
  2. Working on strengths creates a different mindset and positive emotions. Positive emotions brings about the urge to “collaborate” and opens up one’s mind to see alternatives.
  3. Working on strengths is a better coping strategy as the mental attention is on strengths. Using strengths language allows people to view challenges differently, hence cope better.
  4. They (the strengths) are already “there”, why not work on them?

You can still listen to Dr Tayyab Rashid’s talk HERE.

Useful Link: VIA Institute website http://viacharacter.org/www/

VIA研究中心的七周培训虽然已经结束,然,因为他们的慷慨,学员的学习却是一直没有停止过。

如果您对性格优点及其应用感兴趣,您可不要错过这个大好机会:VIA研究中心在2011年十一月推出先锋演讲系列。它将由莱恩博士,VIA研究中心的教育总监,主持邀请专家讨论各种对性格优点在不同领域(如咨询,商业和教育)的实践和应用。VIA研究中心允许任何有兴趣的人报名观看现场直播,并有机会向专家提出问题。而且,VIA不收分文 – 它是免费的。

我参加了第一个演讲系列:Tayyab Rashid博士主讲的“性格优点和心理辅导”。Tayyab Rashid博士是加拿大多伦多大学卫生及健康中心的临床心理学家。他也是VIA研究中心的首席顾问,以及马丁塞利格曼博士一同开发正面心理治疗的合作伙伴。

在博士约一个小时的谈话里,最触动我心的是他对于“为什么我们应该致力於发挥所长”的观点。以下是他这个观点的摘要:

  • 如果我们的目的是帮助他人的发展和成长,仅仅集中我们的思想和功夫在整治上是不足够的。优点强项绝对是更有效地去促使一个人的改变 — 而改变正是一个人成长的前提。
  • 致力於发挥所长帮助他人建立起一个不同的的心态和正面的情绪。正面的情绪促进一个人“合作”的欲望和态度。它也帮助开扩一个人的想法,让他看到多方面的可能性。
  • 致力於发挥所长是为应对挑战更有效的策略。这是因为它将一个人的精神和注意力集中在他的优点强项上。使用优点强项的语言,让人们产生不同的观点,从而更积极地面对挑战。
  • 它们(您的优点强项)根本都已经是您的一部分了,为什么不好好地开拓应用?

您仍然可以在这里 听到Tayyab Rashid博士的演讲。

相关链接:VIA研究中心网址 http://viacharacter.org/www/

3 Questions to a Preferred Career Choice 三个关键问题决定首选职业

“What is the best career choice for me?”

In my line of work, this is perhaps THE most frequently asked question by the new graduates I worked with.  It is not surprising given they are fresh out of school.  In many cases, their graduating from a particular discipline has absolutely nothing to do with their career aspirations but what their parents have wanted them to study.

To answer the question, I like to show them the three big circles and answer their question by asking the following three questions (remember? We discussed this before.  The answers lie with them.  We are just there to ask good questions to help draw the answers out from them):-

Question (1) Passion – what do you really enjoy doing?  When you are doing a task that you are passionate about, you feel engaged and energized, you feel excited, you forget about time.  

Question (2) Strengths – what are you really good at doing?  If you are good at something, you demonstrate a rapid learning curve compared to others around you.  

Question (3) Values – what are the things that are so important to you that you will not trade them for anything?

Career choices that meet all the above, i.e. those in the intersection of the three circles, I tell them, would be your preferred career choices.  These choices match your passion with your strengths and are in congruence with your value system.  When you are doing something you are really passionate about and are good at it, naturally you would be performing outstandingly and happy.  It also brings sustainability.

“What about money?”  They would usually follow-up with this question.

“When you find a career within this intersection that sees you both happy and performing at your career, money will come.” is always my answer. 

Of course, they would eventually learn that money indeed has very little to do with career satisfaction and happiness in life.

What about your career? Is it one in the intersection of your Passion, Strengths and Values?  Are you happy with what you are doing?  Do feel free to share your views.“什么是最适合我的职业选择?”

在我的工作里,这绝对是我最常被新毕业生问及的一个问题。这并不奇怪,因为他们都刚从大学毕业。而大部分的学生,他们毕业於那一学科与他们的职业愿望是没有任何挂钩的。他们只是尊从他们父母的意见去选科。

我答这个问题的方法是回问他们三个问题(记得吗?我们曾经谈过这个问题:问题和答案都确实是在他们身上。我们的责任只在於问好的问题,以帮助他们从中找到答案。):-

问题(一)强烈爱好 — 你真正喜欢做什么任务?当你对某件任务有着强烈爱好时,你在从事这件任务时,会完全投入而处在激励的状态中,你会忘了时间的存在。

问题(二)优点长处 — 你的专长是什么?你最擅长的是在哪方面?这意味着和你周围的人相比,你在这方面有一个较他人快速的学习曲线。

问题(三)价值观 —什么是对你如此重要,你无论如何不会把它与任何东西作交换的?

我告诉他们,这三个答案的交集处,将是你首选的职业。这些选择配合了你的优点长处,你的强烈爱好,也和你的价值观有着一致性。当你对你的职业有着真正的热情,而它又能让你展现你的长处,你自然而然会有突出的表现和感到开心满足。

“那钱呢?不在被考虑范围内吗?” 他们通常都会跟进这个问题。

“当你在三个答案的交集处,找到一个能让你表现突出和感到满足的职业,钱是会跟来的。”是我一贯的答案。

当然,他们最终将会亲身体验到金钱与职业的满足感和生活的快乐幸福其实从来都没有太大的关系。

您的职业呢?它可是的强烈爱好,特长和价值观的交集?它可有为您带来满足感和幸福?欢迎您分享您的看法。

10 Things re: Love of Learning 十大关于热爱学习

The second character strength I learned from “Character Strengths and Virtues, A Handbook and Classification” : “Love of Learning“.  It again confirms and verifies the important role played by teachers, the learning environment and the nature of tasks in cultivating one’s love towards learning a subject matter.

Definition:  This strength describes the way in which a person engages new information and skills.  People with this strength experience positive feelings when they are in the process of acquiring new information and skills, it can be just building on existing knowledge or learning something entirely new.

 My 10 Key Takeaways:

1.  The Love of Learning strength comes from intrinsic motivation i.e. learning for the sake of learning, for the enjoyment and challenge.
2.  People with love of learning must feel they are mastering a skill or filling in the gaps in their knowledge in the process of learning.
3.  The learning environment is a web of relations: the learner and the materials; the teacher to the materials; the learner to the teacher; the teacher to the learner’s academic work; the learner to peers regarding academic work and the relation among the learner, parents and teacher regarding academic work.  Each of these relations must support engagement and collaboration.
4.  Teacher plays a key role in supporting the love of learning for a certain subject by how he/she –

  • Structures the content and curriculum
  • Enables students to make meaningful and connections to the content
  • Genuinely likes the students and develops a connection to the students
  • Develops a clear plan for the class that build on what the students knows, focuses on the students as learners and conveys an expectation that they can and will learn
  • Supports students to sustain the frustration that is inherent in learning

5.  Constraints of the school setting (limited course options, grades, pedagogical practices) may limit opportunities for interest development.
6.  It is important that students/learners appreciate the structure of the classroom or task as having a mastery approach – this can be accomplished by emphasizing goals.
7.  Love of Leaning can be nurtured by tasks which are (i) complex enough to require collaboration and encourage sharing of different perspectives and (ii) authentic and meaningful.
8.  Love of Learning can be strengthened by fulfilling people’s need for belongingness, competence, positive feelings and utility.
9.  People with love of learning place greater value on the content that they are learning.
10. The Love of Learning strength has to be nurtured if it is to be sustained over time.

Related link: The importance of a good teacher: “Galileo’s Teacher”.  http://ahypatia.wordpress.com/2010/07/12/galileos-teacher/

Is Love of Learning one of your character strengths? You can find out and get a FREE full character strength report from HERE.

我从“性格优点和美德的手册和分类”中学到的第二个性格优点:热爱学习。它再一次地印证了教师学习环境任务性质对培养学习者对学习的热爱的关键作用。

定义:热爱学习的性格优点描述一个人如何参与投入於新的知识和技能。拥有这个性格优点的人,在他们学习新的知识和技能的过程中,会体验到积极正面的情绪。热爱学习可以是建立在现有的知识上或学习全新的东西。

我学到关于“热爱学习”的十个要点:
1.  热爱学习来自内在的动力,也即是为了学习的乐趣和挑战而学习。
2.  热爱学习的人在学习过程中必须感受到他们在掌握着一门技能,或在填补着他们的知识差距。
3.  学习的环境是一个关系网络:学习者和教材的; 教师和教材的;教师和学习者的学术工作的; 同行的学术工作和学习者的学术工作以及彼此之间的关系,家长和教师的。每一个以上的关系人都必须支持在学习上的参与和协作。
4.  教师在支持学生对热爱学习某一主题有着关键性的作用 —

  • 结构课程的内容;
  • 让学生对课程的内容感到有意义和有联系;
  • 真正地喜欢学生及与学生产生联系;
  • 开发一个明确的,建立在学生现有知识上的教学计划。以学生是学习者为焦点,传达教师对学生有能力学习的期望;
  • 对学生在学习过程中所面对的挫折给予支持。

5.  学校设置(选修课程,等级,教学实践)的限制,往往会影响学习者发展兴趣的机会。
6.  学习者对课堂或任务的结构是否有一个掌握方法的看法是很重要的 –这可以通过强调设定目标来完成。
7.  我们可以通过以下性质的任务来加强学习者对学习的热爱:(一)任务的复杂程度必需要学习者无间的合作并分享彼此不同的观点;和(二)任务是真实和有意义的。
8.  我们也可以通过满足人们的归属感,对能力,积极的情感和实用度的需求来加强学习者对学习的热爱。
9.  热爱学习的人把学习的价值放在学习的内容上。
10.  一个人若要持续他热爱学习的性格优点,他必须对它加以培育。

相关链接:一个好老师的重要性:“伽利略的老师”。http://ahypatia.wordpress.com/2010/07/12/galileos-teacher/

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My Best Moment 我最好的时刻

I started practising strength-based coaching on a group of graduates I was training for a period of 8 weeks.  I decided to adopt “You at Your Best“, a positive intervention recommended by Dr Martin Seligman. My objective of the exercise is to make them start paying attention to what they are good at and start using their strengths.

I asked each of them to submit a weekly journal describing a moment when they felt they were at their best, I called the exercise “My Best Moment” — the moment they realised they were using their strength(s) and felt good about themselves. 

For the first 2-3 weeks, the journals I received were all along these lines:
“I could not find my strengths. But I realised I have a few weaknesses which I hope I can improve upon in the next few weeks… (the journal went on to describe what the weaknesses were and how he/she plan improve on them).
“My best moment was when we could go out in a group and had a good dinner together… We had such a good time!” (misunderstood “best moment” for “best time after work”)

I patiently reminded them again what “Best Moment” meant and asked them to watch out for their own strengths and, if they could, also looked out for the strengths displayed by their group members.

4th week onwards, a few began to write like this:
“I felt very good last week as I realised I was good at analytic skills when I was doing the project.  I really liked analytic work, I could continue the work without feeling sleepy or tired…”
“I think I had leadership skill because last week, I could get my group members together to complete the assignment which was difficult and all of us were rather confused initially.  There was a lot of self-satisfaction!” 

5th week on, the number of them writing about their awareness and use of their strengths grew even larger.

I could sense the confidence level amongst them grew in tandem.  They became more engaged with their work and with each others. 

It was one of my best moments.

我开始把优势为基础的辅导实践在一组毕业生的身上,他们须参与一个由我负责的为期八周的培训课程。我决定在这八周里,采取塞利格曼博士建议的一个正面的干预方式:“当你在最佳的时刻”。我的目的着重於让他们可以开始觉察到自己的优点,而后注重和更善于利用自己的优点。

我让他们每个人在每一周提交一份笔记,描述他们在上一周里他们最好的一个时刻, 我把这功课叫做 “我最好的时刻” :也就是当他们觉察到自己的优点,在运用他们的优点,自我感觉良好的那一个时刻。

在刚开始的第二,第三周,我收到的笔记几乎都大同小异,同出一辙地写道:
“我真的找不到到我的优点。但我有发现我几个应该改善的地方。我希望我可以在未来几周内改善这几个弱点…”(笔记继续描述他/她的弱点是什么,他/她如何计划改善它们)。
“我最好的时刻是在星期五,我们一组人到餐厅一起吃晚饭…好开心!”(误解“我最好的时刻“为“我最开心的下班后时间”)

我耐心地再提醒他们“最好的时刻”的意思是什么,并要求他们注意自己的优点,也不妨尝试注意组员的优点。

第四周,开始有小部分的人这样写:
“上周,我觉得非常开心!因为当我在做我的工作任务时,我发现到我的分析能力挺不错。我真的很喜欢这类的工作,当我在做分析性质的工作,我完全没有困乏或疲倦的感觉… …”
“我认为我有领导能力。在上周,我领导我的组员一起完成一份颇困难,且非常有挑战性的任务,十分有满足感。”

到了第五周,察觉到自己的优点而加以利用的人数增长更高了。

我能感觉到的他们对自己的信心,也随之而增长。他们变得更加投入参与工作和与彼此之间的关系。

这是我的其中一个最好的时刻。

Ask Questions, Ask Good Questions 问问题,问好问题

The most important skill I appreciate learning in coaching people is to just “ASK questions, ask good questions. Never tell.”   Why only ask?  Because –

  • The issues are theirs and the answers indeed are with them;
  • The process of searching for answers allow them to understand themselves better, to analyse their own issues in-depth and eventually own up the problems;
  • Coming up with solutions themselves empowers them to be fully responsible to take charge of their own action plans;
  • With all the above, it boosts their confidence and enhance their ability to handle issues on their own in future; and
  • Asking (good) questions allows exploratory conversation to take place.  Telling stops the exploration, which we have already learned, is the most critical phase in any coaching models.

A good coach asks good questions – those that will guide the coachees to understand themselves better and to analyse their own issues in-depth to eventually lead them to arrive at a satisfactory solution for themselves to move forward. 

Learn to ask good questions to help people better — they can be anyone in need, your coachees, your students, your staff, your friends and even your kids.

Reference link:
Thoughts Questions – Asking the Right Questions is the Answer
There Are Stupid Questions

我在教练课程学到最重要的辅导技巧是“问问题,问好问题。关注於问而不是给答案。” 为什么?因为 –

  • 问题和答案都确实是在他们身上。
  • 在寻找答案的过程中,他们将对自己和问题作更深入分析而有更进一步的了解,从而让他们勇敢地去面对自己的问题。
  • 让他们寻找自己的答案能使他们采取负责任的态度和行动。
  • 以上所有,将帮助他们增加对自己的信心和能力以处理他们自己的问题。
  • 问(好)问题,能使一个重要的探索性谈话继续地进行。把答案(而且通常未必是正确的)告诉对方,便轻易地中止了探索。探索是对于寻找正确答案最关键性的一个步骤。

一个好的教练会要求问很好的问题 – 好问题指导辅导对象对自己和自己的问题进行深入分析,并最终找到一个令他们自己满意的的解决方案而向前迈进。

学习问好问题去帮助他人,他们可以是任何人:您的辅导对象,您的学生,职员,朋友,甚至是您的孩子。

参考链接:
Thoughts Questions – Asking the Right Questions is the Answer
There Are Stupid Questions