On Target! Progress of 3GT Strengths Project 达标!3GT计划的进度

In September last year, I started  3GT Strengths Project 3GT计划.  It has been 6 months now and it is a good time to conduct a review and give a progress report on the Project.

3GT Strengths Project is my effort of “giving” after an inspiring learning journey about Character Strengths with VIA Institute on Character.  3GT Strenghts Project offers each month  a FREE VIA Character Strengths profiling analysis report known as ViaPro Report (see sample) worth USD40.00 to one person who would like to learn more about his/her own strengths and how to use the strengths.

To-date, I have given away 6 VIAPro Reports to 6 persons and provided coaching sessions to go through the report with them.  Of the 6,  2 are ladies and 4 are gentlemen. 5 of them are between the age of 24-28, while one is aged 33.

The sessions were enlightening for me as I observed how each of them learned more about themselves in the process.  There were a few interesting observations I made:

The PoSiTiVes:

  • A Good Conversation Tool – VIAPro Report is an excellent tool to start a coaching conversation that gradually leading to a deeper level.
  • Accurate and Reflective– All 6 agree that the top 5-8 character strengths represent their strengths well, even though some disagree with the order of the ranking.
  • A-HA Moments – There is almost always some “A-HA” moments for the coachees, having sudden realisation or a deeper understanding of themselves, while we go through the VIAPro Report.  For instance, a coachee suddenly realised why he had been so unhappy with his current job despite the good monetary reward. His utmost character strength was Fairness, Equity and Justice. His work environment was providing just the opposite.
  • Values-linked – VIAPro Report not only tells of a person’s character strengths, it gives a good gauge of the person’s value system – what are the things that are important to them.  I rely on it a great deal, when I conduct career coaching, to assess work-environment fit. A good example will be the one I mentioned above.

The GaPS:

  • Career Relevance or the Lack thereof – Perhaps it was the age-group (24-33) that I am dealing with.  At this age, career success is their greatest concern. Their immediate response to the VIAPro Report was …”So, what does this mean to my career?”  They are obviously much less interested to know about their charater strengths than their skill strengths that will bring about career success.
  • Focus on Weaknesses – There is almost always a tendency for coachees to regard the lesser strengths as “weaknesses” and focus their questions on “how to improve” these lesser strengths them.  For instance, one gentleman was so disappointed that his “leadership” strength was at the bottom five that throughout the coaching session, his questions were just on how to strenghten his leadership skills.

Are you interested to find out your character strengths and get a FREE VIAPro profiling analysis? If yes, please click HERE.

从去年九月,我开始了3GT Strengths Project 3GT计划至今,已有六个月。六个月是一个很好的时间来对3GT计划作一个进度报告。




准确反映:即使有些人不同意它们的排名顺序, 所有六位朋友都同意他们的VIAPro报告所列出的五至八项的性格优点相当准确地反映了他们的性格上的长处。
恍然大悟的一刻:几乎每一位朋友都在我们讨论VIAPro报告时,有他们自己恍然大悟的一刻 — 一个突然觉悟,或突然更深入的明瞭自己的一刻。例如,其中的一位朋友终于明白为什么他尽管工作上有很好的酬劳,他还是非常的不开心。他最强的性格优点是为“公正,公平和正义”。而,他的工作正正提供了一个相反的工作环境。

职业关连:也许是因为他们的年龄层(24-33),事业的成功发展是他们最大的焦点和关注。他们对VIAPro报告的即时反应通常都是……“那,这是否意味着我的职业生涯能/不能成功吗?” 很明显的,他们对他们的技术优势远比性格优点来得感兴趣。这是因为他们认为前者会带来事业的成功。

你有兴趣找出你的性格优点,并得到一份免费的VIAPro性格分析报告吗? 如果你有兴趣,请点击这里


Character Strenghts Take Precedence 性格长处优先

I cannot agree with you more. Thank you for emphasizing the importance of Character Strengths. I have been following your blog and have learned a lot from you.

One GooD THinG Money Cannot Buy 金钱无法买到的一件好事

“I really want to say thank you! The sessions with you have made me understand myself and my strengths so much better. I now know what I really want for my career.”

In our coaching practice, we are taught to always ask for feedback on whether the coaching sessions actually help.  This was one feedback  I received last week from someone I had been coaching for a while.  It was a rather difficult case and it makes the “thank you” all the more meaningful to me.  You may not be able to imagine, but I have to say the satisfaction and fulfilment I receive from this simple one-liner is something that monetary reward can never measure up.

Sincerely, THANK YOU for your “thank you”.  =)

What about you? Do you have one Good THinG that even money cannot buy or provide?  You are most welcome to share your experience here.



在我们的辅导教练实践里,我们总是被教导要常常征询反馈意见,以便了解自己所提供的辅导是否有真正的帮助到他们。而,以上的反馈意见,是我上个星期刚刚收到的。 由于那是一个相当困难的个案,这句“谢谢”对我来说有更为重大的意义。你也许不能意会,但我必须说这一句“谢谢“ 给我带来的工作满足和成就感绝对是金钱报酬所不能衡量的。


你呢?你可有类似以上的经历 — 即使有钱也买不到或提供的?欢迎你在这里分享你的经验。

eCoach – Try it! 电子辅导 – 不妨一试!

www.theinnergame.com launched its Inner Game Electronic Coach and making it available for FREE for a limited period of time.

According to the website, the Inner Game eCoach is ” … a web-based personal coaching tool that helps you define your objectives, motivations, and strategies for moving towards your desired outcomes.  The process is designed to clarify your thinking about any issue,  problem, or goal.”

I tried it myself and found it a rather effective tool to help clarify and simply my thinking about an issue to enable me to be more focussed.

You may wish to give it a try: The Inner Game eCoach.  This may be particularly helpful if:
1. your issues are not a major one (but a confused one);
2. you do not really want to go through the hassles of finding a suitable coach;
3. you cannot justify nor see the need to pay for a coach for the issue; and
4. you do not wish or are uncomfortable to share your issues with others.

The Inner Game is an approach/methodology developed by Tim Gallwey for the development of personal and professional excellence in a variety of fields. Gallwey believes that “Every game is composed of two parts, an outer game and an inner game. The former is played against opponents, and is filled with lots of contradictory advice; the latter is played not against, but within the mind of the player, and its principal obstacles are self-doubt and anxiety.”

You can read more abou the Inner Game HERE.

www.theinnergame.com 推出了其“内部比赛”电子辅导,并在有限期间将它免费提供给有兴趣的人参於。

根据网站的信息,“内部比赛”电子辅导是 “……一个自我辅导(self-coaching)的网络工具。它可帮助你定义你的目标,动机和策略,以向你所设的目标前进。它的设计让你能在过程中,你的思想,以澄清有关的任何问题现在,问题或目标。”

我尝试了, 觉得它是一个相当有效的自我辅导工具。它帮助我专注于我想要解决的问题,并帮助我进一步澄清问题的关键所在。

你可以一试 : “内部比赛”电子辅导。这可能是你的一个好‘帮手’, 如果 —
1. 你的问题并不太大(但却感到思绪不清);
2. 你不想去面对寻找一个合适辅导教练的麻烦;
3. 你不能为你的问题自圆其说地去支付辅导教练;
4. 你不想与他人分享你的问题。

“内部比赛”是由Tim Gallwey所研究开发为个人和专业寻求杰出表现的一个方法。Gallwey认为,“每场比赛都是由两部分组成的:外在的实质比赛以及内部的心理赛。前者着重打击对手,并充满很多矛盾的建议;后者则是参赛者自己的心理状态和想法, 主要障碍来自自我怀疑和焦虑。”


Its all about MINDFULNESS 一个领悟: 觉知和专注

I recently attended a coach training. It was 2 days well spent with a seasoned coach who is passionate about coaching and about helping those who are equally passionate to fulfill their dreams.

The greatest takeaway for the 2 days is my deep reaslisation that a key differentiating factor that determines an effective coach from an average one is one of MINDFULNESS.

The Oxford Online Dictionary provides 2 explanations for “Mindfulness”:
1. the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something;
2. a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.

Applying it to coaching, mindfulness to me is being fully present for your coachee and paying full attention to what he/she is trying to tell you — through both verbal and non-verbal cues.  This is because the real issues of a person are often internal and buried deep within.

At the training, we were trained to pick up key words said by coachees and to closely observe their body languages. We were asked to learn paying absolute attention to both their spoken and unspoken words so that we could follow-up with better and more relevant questions to help coachees detect and unearth the real and (almost always) internal issues within.

One of the participants who himself already an experienced sales coach shared that, in order to be mindful, he even gave up note-taking during coaching sessions entirely so that his coachees can have his full attention.  He admitted it was very difficult initially but by practicing it diligently, he found that the coaching sessions become so much more effective.  What’s more, it helps train his auditory senses and they improve significantly.

A great lesson learned!





  • 如何警觉地挑出你的辅导训练对象所说的关键词和密切观察他们的身体语言;
  • 如何要绝对注意他们的口语词和潜台词,

— 让我们可以跟进更好和更相关的问题,以帮助他们检测和发掘真正的问题所在。

一位本身已是一位有经验的销售教练的学员和我们分共享了他的心得: 为了给予他的辅导训练对象绝对的专注力,他甚至放弃了在谘询会议(coaching sessions)期间记笔记的习惯。他承认在刚开始时是有一定的困难的。然,努力练习多了,他发现他的谘询会议变得更加有效率。更重要的是,他发现没了记笔记的习惯竟然有助于培养他的听觉感官,让它们有了显著的改善。