eCoach – Try it! 电子辅导 – 不妨一试!

www.theinnergame.com launched its Inner Game Electronic Coach and making it available for FREE for a limited period of time.

According to the website, the Inner Game eCoach is ” … a web-based personal coaching tool that helps you define your objectives, motivations, and strategies for moving towards your desired outcomes.  The process is designed to clarify your thinking about any issue,  problem, or goal.”

I tried it myself and found it a rather effective tool to help clarify and simply my thinking about an issue to enable me to be more focussed.

You may wish to give it a try: The Inner Game eCoach.  This may be particularly helpful if:
1. your issues are not a major one (but a confused one);
2. you do not really want to go through the hassles of finding a suitable coach;
3. you cannot justify nor see the need to pay for a coach for the issue; and
4. you do not wish or are uncomfortable to share your issues with others.

The Inner Game is an approach/methodology developed by Tim Gallwey for the development of personal and professional excellence in a variety of fields. Gallwey believes that “Every game is composed of two parts, an outer game and an inner game. The former is played against opponents, and is filled with lots of contradictory advice; the latter is played not against, but within the mind of the player, and its principal obstacles are self-doubt and anxiety.”

You can read more abou the Inner Game HERE.

www.theinnergame.com 推出了其“内部比赛”电子辅导,并在有限期间将它免费提供给有兴趣的人参於。

根据网站的信息,“内部比赛”电子辅导是 “……一个自我辅导(self-coaching)的网络工具。它可帮助你定义你的目标,动机和策略,以向你所设的目标前进。它的设计让你能在过程中,你的思想,以澄清有关的任何问题现在,问题或目标。”

我尝试了, 觉得它是一个相当有效的自我辅导工具。它帮助我专注于我想要解决的问题,并帮助我进一步澄清问题的关键所在。

你可以一试 : “内部比赛”电子辅导。这可能是你的一个好‘帮手’, 如果 —
1. 你的问题并不太大(但却感到思绪不清);
2. 你不想去面对寻找一个合适辅导教练的麻烦;
3. 你不能为你的问题自圆其说地去支付辅导教练;
4. 你不想与他人分享你的问题。

“内部比赛”是由Tim Gallwey所研究开发为个人和专业寻求杰出表现的一个方法。Gallwey认为,“每场比赛都是由两部分组成的:外在的实质比赛以及内部的心理赛。前者着重打击对手,并充满很多矛盾的建议;后者则是参赛者自己的心理状态和想法, 主要障碍来自自我怀疑和焦虑。”

你可以在这里阅读到更多关於“内部比赛”的咨讯。

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Its all about MINDFULNESS 一个领悟: 觉知和专注

I recently attended a coach training. It was 2 days well spent with a seasoned coach who is passionate about coaching and about helping those who are equally passionate to fulfill their dreams.

The greatest takeaway for the 2 days is my deep reaslisation that a key differentiating factor that determines an effective coach from an average one is one of MINDFULNESS.

The Oxford Online Dictionary provides 2 explanations for “Mindfulness”:
1. the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something;
2. a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.

Applying it to coaching, mindfulness to me is being fully present for your coachee and paying full attention to what he/she is trying to tell you — through both verbal and non-verbal cues.  This is because the real issues of a person are often internal and buried deep within.

At the training, we were trained to pick up key words said by coachees and to closely observe their body languages. We were asked to learn paying absolute attention to both their spoken and unspoken words so that we could follow-up with better and more relevant questions to help coachees detect and unearth the real and (almost always) internal issues within.

One of the participants who himself already an experienced sales coach shared that, in order to be mindful, he even gave up note-taking during coaching sessions entirely so that his coachees can have his full attention.  He admitted it was very difficult initially but by practicing it diligently, he found that the coaching sessions become so much more effective.  What’s more, it helps train his auditory senses and they improve significantly.

A great lesson learned!

我最近参加了一个为期两天的辅导教练(coaching)培训课程。由一位对辅导教练充满了热情以及经验丰富的教练来培训我们。

这两天里,我最大的收获莫过于我对“辅导教练”有了一个很深切的领悟。那就是:一位优秀而有效率的教练(coach)和一位普通的教练的关键决定因素在於他们的觉知专注能力。亦即是教练如何给予他的辅导训练对象(coachee)绝对的注意力,藉而明确地通过他们口头和非口头上的线索正确地瞭解到他们的问题所在,从而有效率地帮助他们。

这是因为许多辅导训练对象的问题都是潜在的

在这次的培训中,教练对我们进行了以下严谨的训练:

  • 如何警觉地挑出你的辅导训练对象所说的关键词和密切观察他们的身体语言;
  • 如何要绝对注意他们的口语词和潜台词,

— 让我们可以跟进更好和更相关的问题,以帮助他们检测和发掘真正的问题所在。

一位本身已是一位有经验的销售教练的学员和我们分共享了他的心得: 为了给予他的辅导训练对象绝对的专注力,他甚至放弃了在谘询会议(coaching sessions)期间记笔记的习惯。他承认在刚开始时是有一定的困难的。然,努力练习多了,他发现他的谘询会议变得更加有效率。更重要的是,他发现没了记笔记的习惯竟然有助于培养他的听觉感官,让它们有了显著的改善。

宝贵的一课!