As a finale to the 7-lesson VIA Intensive training, VIA Institute generously offers an optional one-on-one bonus coaching session for every participant to review our VIA-Pro report (i.e. our character strength report). The purpose of meeting was “To review your VIA-Pro report. This can be a general review session or it can be done in the context of a personal or professional growth issue, a goal, or a life difficulty.”
I signed myself up immediately for this precious opportunity. And, am I glad I did. I was fortunate to have Dr Ryan, our 7-week course instructor as my session coach. I could not wait to meet him.
Dr Ryan was great! That short 45-minute session was not only a fruitful one for my own self, it was really a good session to see how an experienced psychologist uses the VIA Report to coach his client. I learned a lot about myself, I learned so much on applying it to people I wish to help. At one point in time, under the patient guidance of Dr Ryan, I even achieved a breakthrough on how I have always seen myself.
My 3 most important discoveries from this 45-minute session with Dr Ryan :
- Embrace all your signature strengths (your top 5 character strengths). This is because they represent the “real you”. Accepting and embracing them allow you to be happier because this is when you are more true to yourself. In other words, apply Gratitude to your character strengths, appreciate each of them, use them, mobilise and expand the use.
- Prudence and Bravery can go hand-in-hand when used appropriately! I was always so stubbornly believed that the two were in conflict and wish I could have more of one and less of the other. Dr Ryan made me see for myself there were incidences in my life that I used them together both at the same time; there was even a major one that enabled me to make a turning point in my life and got me to where I am today. I can’t wait to tell Sarah (my team member) about this realisation.
- When we apply character strengths to career coaching, it would not be appropriate (close to dangerous) to conclude that certain character strengths match/fit certain career options. A character strength can be used and applied within different career options. The key to our role really is to help people to know their strengths and use them in as many situations as possible. Dr Ryan gave a good example, a person high in Humor does not necessarily have to be a comedian. He can be a doctor (no less!) and he can apply Humor when it is much needed to defuse stressful situations and this strength can be very helpful (and needed) in high-stress environment like a hospital.
THANK YOU DR RYAN, from the bottom of my heart.