10 Things I Learn about CreAtiViTy 十大关于“创造力”

I will start sharing my key learning points on every character strength I learned from “Character Strengths and Virtues, A Handbook and Classification“. Let’s start with the character strength “CreAtiViTy”.

Definition of CreAtiViTy:it must have 2 components:

  • Must produce ideas or behaviors that are recognized as original; and
  • The behaviors or ideas must make a positive contribution to that person’s or to the others’ lives.

My 10 Key Learning Points:

  1. CreAtiVe people are not necessarily intelligent but they are not unintelligent.
  2. What differentiate CreAtiVe people from others is their disposition – they are generally independent, non-conforming, unconventional, have wide interest, open to new experiences and a boldness to take risk.
  3. CreAtiViTy is best nurtured in homes that provide many opportunities for intellectual, cultural and aesthetic stimulation. 
  4. CreAtiViTy is best nurtured when parents encourage development of independent interests.
  5. To advance CreAtiViTy, one must work hard.  The 10-Year Rule says: “No person can make creative contributions to a particular domain without first devoting a full decade to the mastery of the necessary knowledge and skills.”
  6. CreAtiViTy needs an environment that is supportive, reinforcing, open and informal.
  7. CreAtiViTy will be suppressed when CreAtiVe people are put under time pressure or their work closely supervised, constantly subject to critical examination.
  8. Highly CreAtiVe people tend to work on several ideas at the same time. They like to incubate one idea while working on another allowing cross-fertilisation ideas to take place.
  9. A great deal of CreAtiViTy took place in a group settings i.e. brainstorming.
  10. To nurture CreAtiViTy, use brainstorming or the teaching of heuristic abstracted from observation of creative people working.  Eg. SCAMPER (substitution, combination, adaptation, modification, putting to other uses, elimination and rearrangement).

Role Model: my vote goes to none other than the late Steve Jobs, whose CreAtiViTy has changed the way we live our lives.

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我将开始和您分享我从“性格优点和美德的手册和分类”中学到每一个性格优点的学习重点。我们就从性格优点“创造力”开始:

定义:“创造力”的定义必须满足两大条件:

  • 所产生的构想概念或行为是被公认为原创的;
  • 该行为或构想概念必须对创造人或他人的生命作出积极的贡献。

我的十个关于“创造力”学习重点

  1. 拥有创造力的人不一定是绝顶聪明的,他们却绝不是愚蠢的。
  2. 拥有创造力的人和其他人的区别在於他们的性格。他们往往是独立的,不喜欢符合规范,标新立异,拥有广泛的兴趣,喜爱新的经验和拥有面对风险的勇气。
  3. 最好培育创造力的是在提供了许多知识,文化和审美机会的家庭。
  4. 那些常常鼓励孩子发展个别兴趣的父母往往能培育孩子的创造力。
  5. 要提高创造力,就必须努力辛勤地工作。根据“十年规则”所说:“除非一个人投入了整整十年的时间去掌握所有必要的知识和技术,否则,没有任何人可以对一个领域作出创造性的贡献。”
  6. 创造力需要一个能给予支持,辅助,而且开放的和非正式性的环境。
  7. 当有创造力的人面对时间压力,或他们的工作受到密切监督以及不断地被严格审查,他们的创造力便会受到压抑。
  8. 极富创造力的人往往同时拥有好几个思路。他们经常在致力於一个概念,却又孵化着另一个想法,从而让它们相互交流。
  9. 有许多的创意是在集体自由讨论下而产生的。
  10. 要培养创造力,可用集体自由讨论或以观察创作人工作的启发式教学。

最佳典范:我会毫不犹豫地把我的一票投给已故的史蒂夫乔布斯,其创造力已经改变了整个世界。

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THE Book!这本书!

I finally bought it — “Character Strengths and Virtues, A Handbook and Classification” by Dr. Christopher Peterson and Dr. Martin Seligman. 

I thought if I want to be serious about coaching through strengths, I need to understand the 24 character strengths a lot more in-depth.  It was not an easy read, especially for non-psychologists, but it certainly contains wealth of information about each character strength.  For each character strengths, Dr Peterson and Dr Seligman described in great details its definition, theoretical traditions, measures, correlates and consequences, development, enabling and inhibiting factors, gender, cross-national and cross-cultural aspects and deliberate interventions.

我终于把它给买了:“性格优点和美德的手册和分类”。作者为克里斯托弗彼得森博士和马丁塞利格曼博士。 

我想,如果我要认真地去实践以优势为基础的辅导,我必须要去好好地作深入性地了解二十四个的性格优点。这本书并不容易阅读,尤其是对非心理学家来说。但,它确实包含了对每一个性格优点的丰富信息。作者对每一个性格优点的定义,理论上的传统,相关性和后果,衍变和发展,促成和抑制的因素,性别,区域性和文化方面,还有蓄意干预方法,都一一作了详细地解说。

A Conversation with Dr Ryan 和莱恩博士的对话。

As a finale to the 7-lesson VIA Intensive training, VIA Institute generously offers an optional one-on-one bonus coaching session for every participant to review our VIA-Pro report (i.e. our character strength report).  The purpose of meeting was “To review your VIA-Pro report. This can be a general review session or it can be done in the context of a personal or professional growth issue, a goal, or a life difficulty.”

I signed myself up immediately for this precious opportunity.  And, am I glad I did.  I was fortunate to have Dr Ryan, our 7-week course instructor as my session coach.  I could not wait to meet him.

Dr Ryan was great!  That short 45-minute session was not only a fruitful one for my own self, it was really a good session to see how an experienced psychologist uses the VIA Report to coach his client.  I learned a lot about myself, I learned so much on applying it to people I wish to help.  At one point in time, under the patient guidance of Dr Ryan, I even achieved a breakthrough on how I have always seen myself.

My 3 most important discoveries from this 45-minute session with Dr Ryan :

  • Embrace all your signature strengths (your top 5 character strengths). This is because they represent the “real you”.  Accepting and embracing them allow you to be happier because this is when you are more true to yourself.  In other words, apply Gratitude to your character strengths, appreciate each of them, use them, mobilise and expand the use.
  • Prudence and Bravery can go hand-in-hand when used appropriately!  I was always so stubbornly believed that the two were in conflict and wish I could have more of one and less of the other. Dr Ryan made me see for myself there were incidences in my life that I used them together both at the same time; there was even a major one that enabled me to make a turning point in my life and got me to where I am today.  I can’t wait to tell Sarah (my team member) about this realisation.
  • When we apply character strengths to career coaching, it would not be  appropriate (close to dangerous) to conclude that certain character strengths match/fit certain career options.  A character strength can be used and applied within different career options.  The key to our role really is to help people to know their strengths and use them in as many situations as possible.  Dr Ryan gave a good example, a person high in Humor does not necessarily have to be a comedian.  He can be a doctor (no less!) and he can apply Humor when it is much needed to defuse stressful situations and this strength can be very helpful (and needed) in high-stress environment like a hospital.

THANK YOU DR RYAN, from the bottom of my heart.

VIA课程的压轴,是VIA研究所慷慨提供给每一位参与者的一对一性格优点的个别辅导。个别辅导的目的是“帮您分析您的VIA性格优点分析报告。这可以是一个一般性的讨论分析,也可以是个人或专业上发展的问题,或生活上所遇到的困难。”

我立即把握这个宝贵的机会去报名。我很幸运,我的辅导教练是我们VIA七周课程的导师,莱恩博士。我万分期待。

莱恩博士真的很棒! 那短短四十五分钟的辅导不仅帮助丰富了我自己,它也真正是一个很好的学习机会。我亲身经历一个富有经验的心理学专家如何利用VIA性格优点分析报告帮助他的当事人。我学到了很多关于我自己。从莱恩博士身上,我也学到了如何更有效率地去帮助他人。

在某一个时间点,在莱恩博士耐心指导下,我甚至对自己一向来的看法取得了突破性进展。

我在这四十五分钟里最重要的三个领悟:

  • 完全地去接纳自己所有的关键性格优点(您最强的五个性格优点)。这是因为它们代表了“真实的你”。接纳它们让您去面对和拥有真正的自我,只有这样,您才会感到更幸福快乐。换句话说,用感恩的心态去面对您的性格优点,好好地运用和扩大使用它们。
  • 如果运用方法得当,“审慎”和“勇气”两大优点竟是可以齐头并进的!以往,我总是固执地相信这两个优点是互相冲突的。莱恩博士让我看到我曾经多次成功地在同一时间运用“审慎”和“勇气”。还有那么的一次,让自己踏出生命中重要的一大步。
  • 当我们运用性格优点帮助他人作职业选择时,执着地去把某些性格优点匹配於某些职业选择上是不恰当,甚至是危险的。一个性格优点可加以运用和发挥在不同的职业上。我们重要的任务是去帮助人们了解自己的优点,和帮助他们在尽可能在多方面情况下运用他们的优点。莱恩博士给了一个很好的例子,一个拥有幽默感,善于逗人开心的人,并不一定要当一个喜剧演员。他绝对可以是一名医生,在高压环境中,如医院,运用其幽默感,帮助他人看较轻松的一面而化解紧张的情况。

谢谢您博士瑞安,衷心地。

My Best Moment 我最好的时刻

I started practising strength-based coaching on a group of graduates I was training for a period of 8 weeks.  I decided to adopt “You at Your Best“, a positive intervention recommended by Dr Martin Seligman. My objective of the exercise is to make them start paying attention to what they are good at and start using their strengths.

I asked each of them to submit a weekly journal describing a moment when they felt they were at their best, I called the exercise “My Best Moment” — the moment they realised they were using their strength(s) and felt good about themselves. 

For the first 2-3 weeks, the journals I received were all along these lines:
“I could not find my strengths. But I realised I have a few weaknesses which I hope I can improve upon in the next few weeks… (the journal went on to describe what the weaknesses were and how he/she plan improve on them).
“My best moment was when we could go out in a group and had a good dinner together… We had such a good time!” (misunderstood “best moment” for “best time after work”)

I patiently reminded them again what “Best Moment” meant and asked them to watch out for their own strengths and, if they could, also looked out for the strengths displayed by their group members.

4th week onwards, a few began to write like this:
“I felt very good last week as I realised I was good at analytic skills when I was doing the project.  I really liked analytic work, I could continue the work without feeling sleepy or tired…”
“I think I had leadership skill because last week, I could get my group members together to complete the assignment which was difficult and all of us were rather confused initially.  There was a lot of self-satisfaction!” 

5th week on, the number of them writing about their awareness and use of their strengths grew even larger.

I could sense the confidence level amongst them grew in tandem.  They became more engaged with their work and with each others. 

It was one of my best moments.

我开始把优势为基础的辅导实践在一组毕业生的身上,他们须参与一个由我负责的为期八周的培训课程。我决定在这八周里,采取塞利格曼博士建议的一个正面的干预方式:“当你在最佳的时刻”。我的目的着重於让他们可以开始觉察到自己的优点,而后注重和更善于利用自己的优点。

我让他们每个人在每一周提交一份笔记,描述他们在上一周里他们最好的一个时刻, 我把这功课叫做 “我最好的时刻” :也就是当他们觉察到自己的优点,在运用他们的优点,自我感觉良好的那一个时刻。

在刚开始的第二,第三周,我收到的笔记几乎都大同小异,同出一辙地写道:
“我真的找不到到我的优点。但我有发现我几个应该改善的地方。我希望我可以在未来几周内改善这几个弱点…”(笔记继续描述他/她的弱点是什么,他/她如何计划改善它们)。
“我最好的时刻是在星期五,我们一组人到餐厅一起吃晚饭…好开心!”(误解“我最好的时刻“为“我最开心的下班后时间”)

我耐心地再提醒他们“最好的时刻”的意思是什么,并要求他们注意自己的优点,也不妨尝试注意组员的优点。

第四周,开始有小部分的人这样写:
“上周,我觉得非常开心!因为当我在做我的工作任务时,我发现到我的分析能力挺不错。我真的很喜欢这类的工作,当我在做分析性质的工作,我完全没有困乏或疲倦的感觉… …”
“我认为我有领导能力。在上周,我领导我的组员一起完成一份颇困难,且非常有挑战性的任务,十分有满足感。”

到了第五周,察觉到自己的优点而加以利用的人数增长更高了。

我能感觉到的他们对自己的信心,也随之而增长。他们变得更加投入参与工作和与彼此之间的关系。

这是我的其中一个最好的时刻。

To Dads and Moms 给爸爸妈妈们

Wrote and translated this piece of work in September 2009, reproducing this thought provoking article here:

I wish to declare that this following article ‘Moments spent with your children are priceless’ is not written by me. It was written by Soo Ewe Jin, a Deputy Executive Editor of the Star newspapers.  Reading the article made me think of so many friends of mine who struggle to balance between time for career and family.   The posting of the link here and the translation of the article into Mandarin are meant to share the author’s wisdom with even more people. The author’s choice made for his children earns my greatest admiration and respect. From this article, I see the character strengths of Perspectives, Courage, Perseverance, Love, Gratitude and Teamwork.

Note: there is another wisdom of Mr Soo that I have, with his kind permission, posted and translated on this blog: Only Character Endures.

我在多年前翻译的一篇文章, 再次和您分享:(我在最近又上载和翻译了Soo Ewe Ji 另一的智慧篇 品格不朽 ,值得一读。)

我先在此慎重声明,以下这篇东西“和孩子的无价时刻并不是我写的。而是我读了之后,突然想到我许多常常挣扎在事业和家庭之间不知如何去平衡的朋友,很想和他们分享。我於是翻译了这篇文章。写这篇文章的是一位报刊的副执行主编。笔者为他的孩子们的所作的选择,让我钦佩和尊重。在他的身上,我看到了性格优点上的洞悉力勇气毅力感恩团队精神

“我们在昨天庆祝父亲节。因此,这是谈论父亲的一个很好的时间。更何况我最近刚看了在金融时报的卢克约翰逊有趣的评论,题为“富有和成功家庭里的贫困儿童”。 特别吸引我的注意的是最后的几段:“无论你追随的是什么职业途径,你都要为成功作出很大的奉献和牺牲,” 约翰逊说。

“对於那些把事业当成是他们的生命的发明家和企业先锋,他们最终的重点放在那里是再清楚也没有了。然而,几乎每一个我所认识的企业家都有一个很大的遗憾 ,那就是: 他们没有放足够的时间在孩子的成长过程上。”

我的长子刚开始在他毕业的大学里工作。与我第一次工作的收入相比,他本月底第一次的支薪,绝对可以请老爸大吃一顿!我很高兴的是,他不认为赚很多的钱是生活中最重要的事情。

在所有我给或不给我的两个孩子的东西中,有一件是他们完全不能抱怨的,就是我给予他们的时间。

当我的长子上小学一年级的时候,我做了一件极为疯狂的事。我成为一个全职的父亲。我的妻子和我决定我们俩人之间有一位将为全职父母留在家里。我决定打先锋,先成为全职父亲。

我们总共累积了大约十六年的全职经验。我们许多善意的朋友,特别是理财规划师和单位信托顾问,都在关心我们所损失的收入。 他们告诉我们,因为我们没有在我们最能建立经济基础时那么地做,所以我们不能送我们的孩子到海外受教育。

一个我们最常听到的共同感叹是:“为什么你不在你工作年能力最强的时候赚钱?” 这是很好的意见,但我们选择了走一条不同的道路。这当然不是所有家长确定可以采取的方法,但我们发现这一条不同的道路,给了我们巨大的回报。 不知怎地,我们也可以凭着一个收入,足够且安然地渡过日子。

请问:一个人如何把时间的定一个价钱?你如何用金钱去衡量陪着孩子一起成长的关键时刻?

无论你是总裁或是体力劳动工人,我们一天都同样只有二十四个小时。我认为如果我们以月薪多少除以1个月的时间,我们大概知道我们每小时的时间价值有多少。

我收到一封电子邮件,关于一个男孩向他忙碌不停的父亲借二十五美元。他的父亲的工资是每小时赚取五十美元。  “爸爸,我现在有五十美元。我可否买您一小时的时间,请您明天早点回家和我们一起晚餐?“他说。

当然,有些人可能会以为这只是其中一个让那些长期远离家的人有犯罪感的电子邮件。

我突然想到“猫在摇篮“ 这首歌。一首在1974年哈里蔡平著名的歌,以第一人称的父亲诉说太忙而没有陪儿子的时间。最终,男孩长大后也像父亲一样-一个大忙人,而没有陪伴父亲的时间。

时间。是无价的。

附注:副执行主编Soo Ewe Jin认为,人生命中的资产负债表远远超越损益,而员工们不应该被视为单纯的经济单位处理。”

The Paradox of Our Time 属於我们的一个矛盾年代

I really like this — a meaningful email I received from a good friend:

“The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less. We buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often. We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to life, not life to years.

We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We’ve done larger things, but not better things. We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice.

We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less. These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes.

These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.”

我收到的一个颇有意思,让人深思的电邮:

 “我们活在一个充满了矛盾的年代里:

我们拥有较高的建筑物,却更短(坏)的脾气;更宽敞的高速公路,但更狭窄的观点。我们花得更多,却拥有得更少。我们购买得更多,却享受得更少。我们有较大的房子,但较小的家庭;更多的方便,却更少的时间。我们有更多的学位,却更少的意识;更多的知识,但更弱的判断能力;更多的专家,但更多的问题;更多的药品,却更少的健康。
 
我们喝得太多,抽烟太凶,花钱太多,却笑得太少。我们驾车太快,太易生气,熬夜太晚,起身太迟,书读得太少,电视看得太多,却甚少祈祷。我们的财产增加了,价值观却降低了。我们讲得太多,爱得太少,恨得太多。我们学会了如何谋生,却不知道如何生活。我们添加了几年的生命,却没有注入生命到我们的年月里。
 
我们已经到达了月球,却甚少越过街道去认识我们的新邻居。我们征服了太空,却没有征服我们内在的自我。我们完成了更大的事情,却不是更好的事情。我们清洁了空气,却污染了灵魂。我们已经征服了原子,但却征服不了自己的偏见。
 
我们写得多了,学习少了。我们计划得更多,但完成得更少。我们学会了匆忙,却没有学习等待。我们建立了更强大的电脑,以容纳转达更多的信息,我们的沟通却越来越少。

这是一个吃快餐却难消化,大男人而低品德,高利润却关系浅薄的年代。这是一个拥有两个收入却更高离婚率,拥有更好的房子却更多破碎的家庭的年代。这是一个快速旅行,用纸尿布,没有道德良知,一夜情,超体重和以药物来控制和达到一切包括让人欢呼,安静或杀人的一个年代。这是一个有很多东西摆放在陈列室窗口,却完全没有东西在贮藏室的年代。一个靠科技就可以把这个讯息带给你,而你随时可以选择分享或打删除掉的年代。”

Wisdom 智慧

The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, answered,

 “Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived.”

 当被问及在人道上有什么是最让他感到意外時,达赖喇嘛答道,

“人呀。因为人为了赚钱而牺牲自己的健康,然后他牺牲赚来的钱去恢复他的健康。 他因为焦虑未来而不能享受当下, 而因为如此,他没有活在当下或是将来。他活得好像永远不会死去,死时才发觉一生从没真正地活过。”