I have a field day meeting one of my group members on Skype. This lady is so full of energy and perspectives (which happens to be one of her signature strengths). We exchange quite some views on how we feel about each other’s strengths and the areas we would like to strengthen further. What makes our meeting even more interesting and meaningful is the fact that, while we are alike in some of our strengths, we are totally the opposite in others i.e. her higher ranking strengths are my lower ones, and vice versa. Because of this, we can learn a lot from each other. It is indeed an amazing encounter.
For my Third VIA Stop, my 3 new discoveries are:
- The virtue of BALANCE – it is important to use our strengths relative to situations and contexts with the right degree and the right timing.
- We tend to underuse our strengths as, culturally, we are more inclined to focus on weaknesses and what we do not do well. I would say this is even more prominent in the culture of the East.
- When we pay attention to people’s strengths, we can learn so much from them — irrespective of whether we are alike or we are totally the opposite. I learn from my Skype session the essence of a Chinese saying, “Among three persons, there must be one who can be my teacher.”
Onto my third week of the VIA journey, I have become more mindful of my strengths. I now pay more attention to whether I am overusing or underusing them and am working hard to strike a better balance. I begin to understand much better why I behave in certain ways and why I am so much happier in my present job than the one before.
这是我第三个星期的学习之旅。我更用心地去关注使用我的性格优点。我也更关注我是否有过度或过少地使用它们。在运用当下，我也努力尝试去取得更好的平衡。我开始更加了解我自己在某些方面的行为表现。还有，我明白了为什么我现在这份工作, 比起我的前一份工作, 带给我多很多的满足感。